Soundboarding
When Looking for Good Advice Goes Wrong
We are perpetually one decision away from altering our life, for better or for worse. No pressure there, right? During many of my sessions I've heard clients say they don't want to make the wrong choice. Fair enough, however who is to say what is right and what is wrong. When people come to me for readings essentially what they're looking for is guidance. Some clients even want to be told exactly what to do, step by step! But it's not up to me, and they're also not *technically* receiving advice from me but from their guides. I digress.
Lately, I've been thinking a lot about advice. When people in your life who make suggestions don't support your path, consider where their intentions are coming from. Sincerity? Projection? Misdirected animosity? It's natural to want sound board, to discuss your plans with friends, family and colleagues especially if they are or have been in a similar boat.
I found that people who give you sincere advice but aren’t hopeful may not have ill intent but they are not seeing your full potential. They would prefer you not have to experience rejection at all. They will tell you that likely too – “Oh honey, I support you! I just don’t want to see you get hurt.” Sometimes it’s practical – “save your money for a rainy day!” Unfair and conflicting.
Those with misdirected animosity have nothing against you but see you as the soundboard for their personal frustrations. They’re conditioned into believing everything and everyone is the same and nothing will ever change, yet they refuse to be the change. Which is still unfair because that would mean there’s no point in even trying. How will you know if you don’t try? “That game is rigged! Noone ever wins!” (There’s definitely situations where things where the odds may not be in our favor but that’s another post for another day!)
Those who project their failures onto you do not want you to succeed, period. They are attempting to stunt you right out the gate. They may have made attempts themselves and failed, yet take no accountability for their attitude. (See my previous post about Rejection.) They have developed this negative mindset because they are likely not in alignment with where they need to be. None of which is your fault. These are the worst kinds of advice givers. “There’s so much competition out there, you’re really not good at handling rejection so you probably shouldn’t put yourself in that position.”
My question to you is - how do these people know? How do they know that you won't be the first one in your family to go to college and graduate with honors? How do they know you're not the cycle breaker? How do they know what your personal calling is in this life? Most importantly, why would they want to try to keep you from it?
My other question is who has to live with the consequences of your choices, you or them? I think we give our power away by not first going within and honing our intuition. Not that anyone asked me!
I believe we have the most power before we make a decision. We have so much anxiety around making the wrong one when in reality this is a perfect opportunity for you to strengthen your connection to your higher self. To develop the trust of self that is imperative with developing your intuition. Whether that decision is starting your own business, going on an audition, putting the first drop of paint on a canvas, or deciding to start a family. Obviously, some decisions seem larger than others but every decision we make is part of a grand tapestry we weave.
Let's say you did make a choice and it didn't work out; piggybacking off my post about rejection, it could lead you down a path far greater than you could have ever anticipated. The point of my post is not to discourage you from seeking advice from others but to first seek the advice from the self. We also know that messages from spirit can come through others. Plus, your Guides are your number one fans, they will never tell you to do something that would be detrimental. However, they are not meant to interfere with free will. And they don't control the outcomes. They simply provide the necessary and needed support from their vantage.
